I stopped dreaming – Emotional Weight Series

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I stopped dreaming – Emotional Weight Series

So why is this so important?  First of all I want you to think about this….. Do you remember when you were little what you wanted to be when you grew up?   If we look deeper into our childhood dreams… maybe we will find some clues into who we are and what are natural passions are because one thing I have been taught this past year is the importance of getting In touch with the little girl inside of me.  I invite you to try to remember what you used to love to do as a kid.  What were your dreams?  What did you enjoy creating? How did you play?

These are some of the questions I thought about when I was in my depression. 

I remember when I was a little girl I used to dream about being a school teacher AND a famous singer! I thought my students would think I was so cool if I was also a famous singer. 

I loved being a teacher.  I loved playing school.  It was the best when I could convince my little brother and sister or my friends to be my students.  It wasn’t quite the same teaching to my stuffed animals.  I loved writing on the chalkboard and I loved grading papers. I loved giving instructions and helping people.  I remember my parents even got me one of those desks with the chair attached from an old school.  

My goal now is to be a life coach. I still love being a teacher in a way. I love being able to teach what I’m learning to other people.  So even though I didn’t become a school teacher. I know that I still have the desire to teach others. 

As a little girl I loved singing and performing but I didn’t know if I wanted to be a full on famous person because more than performing I wanted to be a Wife and Mom.  

When I got married at 18 I did a few plays but once I had my first baby at 21, I just focused on my family and put all of my dreams of life on hold.  I LOVE being a Mom.  But because of my codependency…. It allowed me to forget and lose myself even more.  I now lived through my kids and their experiences. Also as I started to gain weight I became so self conscious and it made it hard to want to be in front of a crowd anymore. (Another excuse for me to ignore my own dreams)

#1:  I wanted to be a teacher.  I still love to teach people.  

#2: I wanted to be A wife and mom.  ✅ done. 

#3: I wanted to be a famous singer.  I’ve mentioned to several people that one of my biggest goals is to make an album of my own original songs that help people feel God‘s love. It hasn’t happened yet but I still have time to make that a reality.  

So another important message I want to share is what I’ve learned about continuing to dream daily as an adult.  Most of us had dreams about our future when we were young but we stop dreaming as we got older. This is where the magic of meditation comes in. 

I have never been dedicated to meditating until now.  I have heard about it for so many years but I never put it into action.  I am so glad that I started because I am seeing how it is changing the way I’m looking at myself and the possibilities of my future.  

If you will look into Joe Dispenza‘s work. He explains that most people are living their life with the memory of the past in their mind. When we constantly relive the past and fear the past we will continue to create more of what we’ve had in the past.  But if we want to create something different then we need to imagine the future we want to create.  When we practice it a lot then we start feeling the emotion with the meditation and that is where the body starts recognizing it as a real experience.

Some of my favorite Joe Dispenza quotes.

“To be happy with yourself in the present moment while maintaining a dream of your future is a grand recipe for manifestation.”

“When you feel so whole that you no longer care whether ‘it’ will happen, that’s when amazing things materialize before your eyes.”

“We can’t create a new future while we’re living in our past. It’s simply impossible.”

“Depending on what we are thinking and feeling, we create our state of being.”

“Thinking creates feeling, and then feeling creates thinking, in a continuous cycle.”

Like feeding a plant or a garden, tend to your future every single day, and the delight that comes with that vision causes the brain to literally change over time.”

“The hardest part is to teach our body emotionally, what the future will feel like ahead of the actual experience.”

When people get so connected to their future they stop telling the story of their past.”

“Stop telling the story of your past and start telling the story of your future.”

But the amazing thing about meditations is that we can start dreaming again!   And the more we practice our meditations, the more emotions that we can create, the more emotions we create the more the brain believes it.  We literally help our dreams come true as we think about them and feel what we would feel as if it were happening now. 

I am almost at 30 days of a daily meditation. I get up every morning at 5:30 AM and do a guided meditation where Joe Dispenza leads me away from my past and into present moment where I create and dream of the future that I want to have.   

I can tell you that my life has been hard!   And I don’t want to keep creating the same life I’ve lived the last 25 years.   I want to create a new way of thinking and dreaming and I can’t wait to see where it leads me in my life. 

I think the thing that my mentors are trying to teach me is that we need to be more like we were when we were kids. Remember when we would dream? We believed that anything was possible! What if we started to dream again as adults? That’s what I would like to share in my podcast today. Meditation is for us to start to realize that our future is in our own hands that we are the creators of our lives and I think that’s why I love meditation so much is because we can actually learn how to do this. In meditation we can go anywhere and do anything. Absolutely anything is possible and when we’re able to create that emotion during the meditation…. that’s where the magic happens. If you would wake up 30 minutes earlier than you normally wake up and make this a priority…. I promise you that your life will change. You will see hope about your future and things will start coming towards you. You also become closer to your creator and you start being able to have DIVINE DOWNLOADS. So start meditating with me so we can get in that state of imagination just like we were when we were little.

I would like to tell everyone thank you so much for being a part of this podcast with me putting myself out there and sharing my deepest insecurities and trying to be really honest about my life is giving me such an amazing view of why I have been emotionally eating for so many years.   

I hope that those of you who are listening to this who are also struggling with obesity and struggling with figuring out why you can’t stop eating will go along with me on this journey. I believe that once we uncover all of these things that we’ve been hiding for so long but we will be set free from our addiction to the food. I just want to invite you to come along with me

Wouldn’t it be amazing if we could all live like we were kids again we were so free to dream were so free to think that anything was possible in our lives? Yessssss let’s start dreaming again!